A recent diagnosis of a life-threatening disease (see previous post) is causing all manner of disruption among my habits and attitudes. In response I’m learning new ways of nurturing this old ‚bag of bones’ (Chinese Zen expression), turning food into medicine [1] and cooking into an act of self-compassion [2].
Psychologist Kristin Neff explains —
“Self-compassion is simply the process of turning compassion inward. We are kind and understanding rather than harshly self-critical when we fail, make mistakes or feel inadequate. We give ourselves support and encouragement rather than being cold and judgmental when challenges and difficulty arise in our lives. Research indicates that self-compassion is one of the most powerful sources of coping and resilience we have available to us, radically improving our mental and physical wellbeing. It motivates us to make changes and reach our goals not because we’re inadequate, but because we care and want to be happy.”
Dr. Neff’s website offers information on self-compassion, research, guided practices, and a way to test your own self-compassion level.
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[1] Researchers have „demonstrated the positive impacts of including health literacy, mindfulness exercises, and cooking demonstrations in a nutrition education program.” DeAnna Nara, et al. (2019). A ‘Food as Medicine’ Program and Its Effects on Healthy Eating and Cooking Confidence. Current Developments in Nutrition, vol 3, June 2019. [2] Neff, K. D., & Dahm, K. A. (2015). Self-compassion: What it is, what it does, and how it relates to mindfulness. In: Handbook of mindfulness and self-regulation, pp. 121-137, full text.
Peter love Kristen Neff’s explanation of self-compassion is a great and comfortig rescource as is Tara Brach.
I designed the Kidney Walk for the Kidney Foundation back many years ago. It was quite an interesting undertaking I learned alot about kidney disease. At that time the statistics around transplant need was 1 in 16. The more peope I talked about this with the more I realized how prevalent kidney issues were in BC with one person either being related to, or knowing someone needing transplant or dialysis.
With diet and exercise you won’t need to worry about that I am certain as many people do manage their CKD very well.
Another road to travel and much to learn along the way. I will travel with you if only in my prayers and support.
Peter love Kristen Neff’s explanation of self-compassion is a great and comfortig rescource as is Tara Brach.
I designed the Kidney Walk for the Kidney Foundation back many years ago. It was quite an interesting undertaking I learned alot about kidney disease. At that time the statistics around transplant need was 1 in 16. The more peope I talked about this with the more I realized how prevalent kidney issues were in BC with one person either being related to, or knowing someone needing transplant or dialysis.
With diet and exercise you won’t need to worry about that I am certain as many people do manage their CKD very well.
Another road to travel and much to learn along the way. I will travel with you if only in my prayers and support.
Peter love Kristen Neff’s explanation of self-compassion is a great and comfortig rescource as is Tara Brach.
I designed the Kidney Walk for the Kidney Foundation back many years ago. It was quite an interesting undertaking I learned alot about kidney disease. At that time the statistics around transplant need was 1 in 16. The more peope I talked about this with the more I realized how prevalent kidney issues were in BC with one person either being related to, or knowing someone needing transplant or dialysis.
With diet and exercise you won’t need to worry about that I am certain as many people do manage their CKD very well.
Another road to travel and much to learn along the way. I will travel with you if only in my prayers and support.
Thank you Peter for the reminder of Kristin Neff’s work. I find self-compassion hard to remember and embrace after so many years of self-criticism. Blessings to you on your bumpy path of challenges in your health.
Dear Peter,
Thank you so much for this posting. I really needed to hear this as I have Parkinson’s which is a progressive neurological disease with no cure.
Since the pandemic, it has progressed and my body and mind aren’t as functional. Your posting is just what the doctor ordered.
With great compassion for self and others,
Ruth
Dear Peter,
Thank you so much for this posting. I really needed to hear this as I have Parkinson’s which is a progressive neurological disease with no cure.
Since the pandemic, it has progressed and my body and mind aren’t as functional. Your posting is just what the doctor ordered.
With great compassion for self and others,
Ruth
Peter, I’m sorry to hear that you’re dealing with this health challenge. But it sounds like you’re seeking healthful advice, both medically and spiritually. I’ll add my thoughts to the many supporting you.
How kind of you, Joan. 25 years in, this spiritual practice saved me once more.
Peter, thank you for sharing so openly with us. You have had your share of serious health challenges, and yet continue to teach us how to be self compassionate, no matter how bumpy that road may be. Be gentle with yourself. Much love.
Your blog is such a gift. Thank you for being such a wonderful human being. sue.
Thank you, Sue. And what helped shape this human being?
Dear Peter, wishing you all the best – you’ve had your share of health challenges, and keep teaching us the act of self-compassion. thank you, much love. Janet
You continue to teach us about self-compassion in sharing your experiences and showing us how to be patient and kind with ourselves, not always easy. I hope you can find new flavours that will satisfy the palate.